Socialize like an Ambivert

I used to stress out every time there would be a gathering at my place, or whenever a group of friends’ friends organized a massive BBQ and everyone was going.

The thing was, I realized, I didn’t have to go. Sure, my friends were going to be there, but I can easily excuse myself earlier and all would be well.

I forgot to mention, I used to have social anxiety, which made me miserable around people.

 

As an ambivert (part introvert and part extrovert), while I didn’t mind social events, I just as same didn’t mind being by myself. So that left me on neutral grounds. Most of my decisions were then deflected to these questions:

‘Who else is going to be there?’ and

‘Do I really have the time to go there?’ and

‘Do I have something to wear for this event?’

Once I had the answers, it made it easier to schedule my time and work around with what I had left to finish of my pending chores.


So how to Party like an Ambivert?:

  1. You know who your friends are. And you also know which of those friends you are most comfortable with. It’s highly likely that they will be similar to you in terms of personality. Hanging out with them during social events, will give a sense of security to your introvert-side, while your extrovert-side still has fun.
  2. You don’t have to go to each and every single party or Happy-Hour you are invited to. Pick out the places that you like to visit or is convenient for you. This way, it’s easier when you need some quiet-time from all the socializing. But hey, if you want to be a party-animal; by all means, who’s stopping you.

But what to do when you are at a work-related event?

How to Network like an Ambivert?

  1. For a Seminar or conference, you might be able to find out who is attending. Look them up and connect with them via online platforms beforehand, then re-introduce yourself at the event.
  2. Observe the audience. You are not the only one who doesn’t know anyone or is feeling out of place. Narrow down to couple of people you might be interested in talking to, they might be of the same industry or might have mutual connection with you.
  3. Small talk is ugh, probably avoidable, because it may make you awkward. Instead start with some industry news you read recently, or better yet, discuss the topic of the event itself.
  4. Don’t push yourself, you don’t have to meet everyone. Quality over quantity.

 

Hope this helps! Happy Partying!

 

🙂 FTK

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The Alchemists of Loom: Review

31549513After reading all of Air Awakens series in less than two weeks, I just had to read this. Elise incorporated Dragons, Alchemy, and Steampunk in one gorgeous book, how could I ever not read this!

The writing was different than what Elise had done before, and it fit nicely into the setting of the book. It was POV chapters in third-person narrative. The story mainly revolved around Cvareh, a Dragon, who is on a mission; and Arianna known as the White Wraith – the enemy of all Dragons.

My favorite POV would have to be Petra with all her sass, she is a smart character, and I want to read more of her. Next would be Cvareh, in the course of this book, he grew the most in my opinion, from not caring about almost anything, to going lengths to accomplish something for someone else. Florence, was simply a joy to read.
Arianna, on the other hand, turned a bit annoying from time to time. Her background (and source of her vengeance) was not fully revealed, which I would have preferred. Leona, or more aptly named by Petra as the ‘King’s Bitch’ was a handful in the short chapters of her POV. It successfully also gave a glimpse of how ruthless Dragons can be and why Arianna might despise them.

The world building was amazing. It gave the steampunk vibe, which I absolutely loved, and incorporated elements of Alchemy and Magic seamlessly. That all being said, this is book one in The Loom Saga. There wasn’t a ton of action or romance, that I was hoping for. I also felt their ‘adventure’ to reach The Alchemists Guild was a bit anticlimactic.

Having read Air Awakens, I can positively say that climax-building, plot-twists and cliffhangers are Elise’s strong points, but they weren’t fully present in this book, and that leaves me on the edge of what to expect from the other books in this series.
I’ll be craving for more steampunk action, more angst romance, and a ton of world building from the second book, The Dragons of Nova *Now to wait until I get my hands on it*

Overall 3.5 out of 5 stars.

Saudi Women Can Drive

Amidst all headlines, from ‘NFL-Take a Knee’ to the ‘Daily Weather Report’, one headline made it to the top of international news and trended worldwide on Twitter. If you were living under a rock, here is a post from NYTimes.

History was made, three days after the 87th National Day of Saudi Arabia, on Sept 26, 2017, a royal decree was issued – legalizing women to drive in the Kingdom; effective June 2018. It was an age old rule, that banned women from driving any sort of transport within the Kingdom, that now has come to an end.

While congratulatory messages swarmed twitter from across the globe, there were (sadly) several negative comments, including mockery of women’s ability to take the wheel. [Here is a quick snapshot comparing the number of vehicle crashes in U.S by gender.]

Keeping this post this post strictly economics-oriented; allowing women to drive, can affect Saudi Arabia in several ways:

Female Empowerment
With the increase in female-only job vacancies and more focus on women education, more and more women are being encouraged to work. And with a population of roughly half male-to-female ratio, of which 60% of females are between ages 20-64 (Source: GAstats, 2016); removing a lifestyle-handicap and legalizing women-driving will empower them and enable greater participation from females in the country’s overall economy.

Foreign Employment
On the other hand, there are about 1.4 Million personal drivers (not counting Uber, etc.), whose job security is becoming precarious by the day. Furthermore, as majority of them are foreigners from low-income families, they will be loosing that income to support their families.

More Disposable Income
Meanwhile, the disposable incomes that were being paid to personal drivers, can now be utilized elsewhere, or simply saved for future investments, which increases the standard of living in the long-term.

Boost of Car Industries
It is needless to say, this would increase the car sales and boost gasoline demands. Almost all car brands jumped to the chance to begin advertising from now. These are some of their congratulatory ads: Ford, Nissan, and many more.

 

Regardless of how it actually turns out to be, and how welcoming the streets are for female drivers; it is a massive step towards the growth of the country and its people.

Go Ladies!

 

“There’s something so special about a woman who dominates in a man’s world. It takes a certain grace, strength, intelligence, fearlessness, and the nerve to never take no for an answer.” —Rihanna

 

🙂 FTK

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De-technologize Yourself

Always Connected..
Always Sharing..
Always Online..

According to Entrepreneur.com, Millennials spent 18 hours a day consuming online content. That figure was of 2014, I’m sure it has only increased since then – I personally spend 9-10 hours looking at the screen at work alone.
After returning from work, it’s usually Netflix and Chill, otherwise I’m reading books-on Kindle.

So basically, I’m on the screen, all the time. And even when I’m travelling, the routine doesn’t change much.

Now, however, when I travel, I would limit my online time to 2-3 hours everyday. The remaining would be going “old-school”. I would opt for an actual book, to pass time on public transports, I’d take photos from an actual camera, and not my phone, and wherever possible, I’d use an actual paper-map (though I often use my phone in the end, just to make I don’t get lost).
In the beginning it was impossibly difficult to leave my phone and not constantly look at it. But sooner than I expected, I got accustomed to the fact that, well, you really don’t have to check your phone every 5 minutes.
I started noticing everything around me, started to interact more with people, and indulged myself in more creative things.

Back to routine life, it isn’t always possible to stay away from technology all together, but I try to use it in more productive way and to balance it with something non-techie, like reading or crafting, etc.

This has limited my obsession of posting everything on social media and gave me time to spare to pursue others stuff, and to live in the moment.

 

🙂 FTK

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